This was first posted on Romancing the Genres on May 11, 2017. I have a regular gig there on the second Thursday of the month, and you’ll find many great posts by authors from all over the world there. Check it out at https://romancingthegenres.blogspot.com.
I have been reinventing myself over the past year, as I am at an in-between stage professionally and personally. My Gold Rush books are out of print, and I’m looking for an agent for my World War II series. Plus, I’m in the process of moving to a new house. And outside of that, I’ve discovered a new role for myself, as an activist in my community. It seems like the right time to stand up for what I believe in, especially if it gives a voice to people who don’t have a strong voice in our current system.
So, what have I learned from this?
1. Change is scary.
Many of the problems I’ve experienced in the last year have to do with reactions to change. Sometimes I’m the one who is having trouble adjusting, and sometimes it’s other people, but change is hard, and sometimes downright scary. Most of us are challenged by new circumstances. It’s good to acknowledge that and roll with it.
2. We are stronger than we think.
I’ve done a lot of things I didn’t know I could. Whether it’s physical or mental, I’ve found I can do more and deal with more than I realized. And I’ve been in groups where collectively we’ve helped each other grow in strength. That is powerful!
3. It’s easier to be fearless when it’s about something bigger than ourselves.
I can barge into a state senator’s office to start a conversation about a bill without worrying about what she’ll think of me—because it’s not about me. It’s about our kids and our state, and that’s more important than silly old me. It’s worth a few rejections, if it helps the cause.
4. People will either applaud new roles and growth, or not.
I’m blessed to have loved ones who encourage me, but I can’t expect everyone to do so. It goes back to #1—some people are threatened by change. They won’t like the new me, and I can’t do much about that except try not to get too caught up in others’ opinions.
5. Balance is important.
I’ve learned I can’t do anyone else any good if I don’t take care of myself first. I need to find a balance between saving the world and saving myself.
I hope these things will help you in your own reinvention. Carry on and become the best person you can be! 🙂